When you are a little girl, you can bet that there is no bigger event than the day of your birth. For the younger people out there, there is nothing better than turning a year older and growing older. Kids with separated parents are sometimes luckier than the rest since they can hold two different celebrations. Kelsey Frederick is one of those kids with divorced parents. Her mom Christin and dad Schaffen did not mind working together to plan a great birthday for their little girl. Did everything go according to plan?
Two Parties For One Teenage Girl
Kelsey was excited since she was going to celebrate a special birthday this time around. She was about to turn 13 years old at long last. You know what this means. She was going to be a teenager! On top of this, she was getting two birthday celebrations.
She only wanted this year to be even better than the ones that came before. It was going to be a very big day, so it deserved a party or celebration that would reflect those things. What she should do?
What made it even more special was the fact that her mom agreed to pay for her blonde highlights! She could not wait to try it out. In the past, all that she could do was look at girls in school who had them.
Off To Dad’s House
She had a glam session at the salon during the first part of the day. It only had to end because it was time to go to her father’s place next! What could he have planned for his only daughter on her big day?
She’s Not Alone
There are actually a lot of kids out there who have two families just like Kelsey. It is a good thing that she got to spend enough time with both her mom and dad. This was what the divorce contract said, after all.
She spends each weekend with the other parent. We doubt that she gets bored often for this reason. When she goes over to her father’s place, they often watch baseball games together with her little brothers. It is always a fun time for all of them!
Mother And Daughter Duo
There are many kids who do not get along well with their parents. Kelsey is very close to Christin. They are more than just a regular mom and daughter duo. The two of them are best friends on top of that!
A Close-Knit Bond
It is the sort of bond that most people only dream of having. The girl knows that her mom is always there if she needs help with anything at all. She sure is lucky that she gets to call Christin her mom.
A Different Kind Of Relationship
While she and her dad get along, it is not quite the same for them. He is not as interested as her mother when it comes to her life. Aside from that, Kelsey lives with her mom and spends more time with her.
A Family Affair
She was only a little girl when her parents decided to call it quits. It was hard because she was still so young, but it was a good thing that she can always fall back on the support of her cousins and brothers. If it were not for them, it would have been much tougher on her than it actually was.
One of the major hobbies Kelsey has in life is sports. She had been interested in them from the moment that she started to walk! It was a good thing that she had this, especially when the divorce was playing out. It helped her stay grounded even if there were big changes happening in her life.
She also got lucky because her parents did not end their relationship on bad terms. They decided that it was in their best interest to stay friends, especially since they would be raising the kids together. The two of them actually talked about it in-depth, so they were on the same page about childrearing.
A Little Fish
We know that it might not seem like much, but we think it was great for them to take their daughter out to Lake Erie on a monthly basis. Kelsey liked this trip a lot in the past, and they agreed that the divorce should not get in the way of her happiness!
Soon enough, Schaffen found another opportunity when it comes to romance. He started to go out with one of his coworkers at the fire department. Kelsey was okay with this. In fact, she got along with Sarah!
He eventually proposed to her, and they later tied the knot at their local courthouse. Schaffen and Sarah opted to still dress up even if they did not have a fancy wedding ceremony. Kelsey was happy for them!
The Deal With Her Dad
His new wife was not a problem for Christin at all. The only thing that she asked was that Sarah was not going to interrupt the way that they agreed to raise Kelsey and the little boys.
Nothing Would Change
Even though there was now a stepmom in the mix, this should not change anything about the way that they raised the kids. Kelsey did not mind this at all. For her, it was only important to see her dad happy.
Strong Women All Around Her
There was never a lack of strong women when Kelsey was growing up. They were always there. Her Aunt Kelly, her second mother, was always there to help her out. Apart from her, there was also Haylee Ann. She was Kelsey’s godmother. These two ladies would play big roles in the story we are about to tell.
Endless Maternal Figures
She would always rely on these two women when she needed perspective and advice. They were ready to tell her their own experiences and stories. Considering this, Kelsey was not at all threatened by Sarah!
It was a good thing that her mother, father, and stepmother all lived in Fostoria, Ohio. They lived near each other, so it was not hard to bring the kids over as per their schedule. As you will soon see, Christin, Schaffen, and Sarah would all play huge parts in the story that unfolded on the birthday of this young girl.
It can be hard to pick the right gift for a girl that young, but Kelsey proved to be even more challenging than most girls. After all, she had hobbies that were not typical of preteens. What should they get her?
The only thing she told them was that she did not want glitz. Kelsey was not a “girly-girl,” so she would not like anything sparkly and pink. Her mom clearly needed help if she wanted to pick the best gift ever.
Not Like Other Girls
Kelsey played softball, but she already had everything that she needed to play the sport. Aside from that, she liked to go fishing as well. However, it did not sit right with Christin to give her daughter the sports gear she needed on such a big day. Kelsey was pretty content already, so what would she appreciate?
Something A Bit Cheaper
They knew that Kelsey had always dreamt of her very own Mia Hamm jersey. Sadly, it was not possible since it was too expensive. What could Christin get her that she would like but would not cost so much?
Kelsey could not help but feel like she was waiting an entire lifetime for the birthday to arrive. When you are that age, everything feels much more dramatic. What 12-year-old girl does not wait for the day that they can finally call themselves a teenager? In the meantime, she decided to look up cool party ideas.
An Important Milestone
Christin had a hard time believing that Kelsey would be 13 years old. It did not seem right that so much time has passed since she brought this girl into the world. That was when she knew that time really flies.
This birthday meant a lot to Kelsey, so Christin hoped to pick the best gift she could find. In the past, she always got Kelsey a nice surprise when it came to gifts and presents. Was it time to let Kelsey have the opportunity to pick something out for herself?
A Beauty Queen
Like a lot of girls her age, Kelsey also adores doing her makeup and hair. She actually liked going to weddings since she knew that it would lead to a glam day. Christin knew that her little girl loved makeup. After all, Kelsey always used her stuff! Still, she was shocked to hear what Kelsey wanted.
Highlights For My Birthday
She told Christin, “Mom, I want to get highlights for my 13th birthday”. This teen wanted to put some color in her brown hair by adding in blonde highlights. What did Christin have to say about that?
Fair enough, she could have made a wilder and more shocking request. Still, it will always come as a shock to hear your child ask for a makeover. Christin also worried if she had insecurities with her looks.
Like Her Mother
Still, she could not forget that she also had highlights added to her hair a long time before the kids were here. Maybe Kelsey was more like her than she realized in the beginning. There was no reason to worry.
Christin was a bit shocked, but she did ask Kelsey to think of anything that she wanted. How could she refuse her daughter now? She kept in mind that Kelsey’s hair had turned darker over the years, so this made a lot of sense. It was not a big deal. She still felt nervous but knew that it was too late to turn back.
A Great Big Sister
Christin had another reason to agree that did not have to do with her birthday. This mom agreed since she was proud of Kelsey! The young girl has younger brothers, whom she always looked after. Aside from this, Christin could not have asked for a better role model for her sons.
Mom And Daughter Bonding Session
Christin knew that her daughter should get the royal treatment. While they were not sure what would happen at the salon. Turning it into a mom and daughter bonding session made it much easier for them!
It was a relief that the local salon Christin visited also offers other services like massages, manicures, and pedicures. Kelsey was in for a neat birthday treat. Christin went there a lot, so she got a discount as well.
Matching Mom And Daughter
Kelsey and Christin even got matching manicures and pedicures together! How cool was that? They had no idea that something bad was waiting for them later that day… Read on to see just what happened.
A Relaxing Day
They anxiously waited for the result of the transformation. The two of them hoped for the best. After a long time at the salon, it was time to see the results. At long last, she showed her daughter the mirror…
Could Not Believe Her Eyes
Did it live up to her expectations? Kelsey was in shock when she saw herself in the mirror. The highlights had a huge impact on the way that she looked. Christin herself could not believe what she was seeing. However, the best part of it all was the huge smile that was on her daughter’s face!
A Surprise Up Her Sleeve
Kelsey had no idea that her mom had one more plan in mind after she got her hair and nails done. There was more to it than that! Christin did not forget about makeup, so the two of them headed for Sephora.
After they were done with all the treatments, Christin then took a photo of the girl who was blossoming into a young woman. She wanted all their friends and family to see her transformation. They had no clue that someone out there did not react in a positive way at all. They were happily ignorant back then.
Next Stop Is Dad’s Place
Kelsey could not wait to go out and then show off her makeover to all her pals. However, she still had to go and spend a few days with her dad. Christin was done with her part of the day, so it was now his turn.
Christin was glad that her daughter would get to spend her big day with both of her parents. They both sat in the car and then went to his house. The plan indicated that Kelsey would stay home at his place the whole weekend. It was not a bad deal at all.
When she would spend the weekend at her dad’s place, Kelsey often stopped using her phone. She split her time between her folks, so she wanted to get the chance to enjoy her time with her dad. Christin did not have any reason to worry about her. Still, she woke up the next day with a heavy feeling in her gut.
Christin assured herself that there was no reason to worry. Her daughter was in perfectly good hands over there. However, it would seem like there is truth in the saying that mothers know best! She waited for the moment that Kelsey would come back. She also wanted to know how Kelsey liked her new ‘do.
Who Was She?
At long last, it was time for Kelsey to return home after spending the weekend with her dad. When she opened the door to let her in, she was shocked to see the person at the front door. What did she see?
What Was It?
She saw her daughter standing there, her face all swollen and puffy from crying. What happened to her? Could she have argued with her stepmom or dad? Perhaps Schaffen had no choice but to bring her to the fire station, which was not her favorite place on the planet. It did not explain all the crying, however.
She then did a double take. Her jaw dropped at that moment. Kelsey was not only crying, but there was also something new with her hair. It did not look the same way it did a few days ago. What changed?
The blonde highlights did not only disappear, but her daughter’s hair had also been chopped off! Did Kelsey change her mind about the makeover and tried to change it on her own? Christin was so shocked that she could hardly breathe!
A “Chop Off”
Her hair had been hacked off during the weekend. One professional hairstylist had this to say about the haircut: “What they did to that poor child, it’s a “chop off”, it’s a boyish cut with no styling whatsoever”.
From Extreme High To Extreme Low
What broke Christin’s heart was the fact that her daughter was hiding her face with her hands. She refused to show her mother her face! Christin knew that her daughter felt humiliated by this. She could not believe that something like this happened to her lovely girl.
On her birthday, Kelsey went from feeling pretty and confident to feeling ugly and insecure. All of this happened in only a matter of moments. She did not even want to look at herself in the mirror by then. Her self-esteem had been damaged by what she went through on what was meant to be her special day.
Christin could see that she was not going to get answers from her daughter, so she went to the source. She paid Schaffen and Sarah a visit, although she was fuming the whole time. She could not believe that the father of children would have let such a thing happen to her daughter.
How Could You
When she got there, she ran to the door and started to scream at the couple. She asked them what happened to Kelsey and why they let it happen at all. Christin also wanted to know why they did not even contact her when this went down. She was so mad, and she had every right to feel that way.
It seems like the couple did not like the new hairstyle on Kelsey and punished the girl for it. They said that it was just too precarious for her. They also explained, “Actions have consequences”.
Against Her Wishes
Schaffen and Sarah had no clue that this saying was true. They would soon get a taste of their own medicine! The police chief later said, “The mother was upset at how her child was being cared for. The haircut was done against the child’s wishes under the direction of the girl’s father and stepmother”.
Smile No More
When Christin took Kelsey to her father’s place on her birthday, she had been one happy girl. How could a thing like this have happened? Christin also could not believe that her ex did not like the highlights.
Taking Her Frustrations To Facebook
Christin had no idea what to do, so she retreated to Facebook to talk about what just happened. She was frustrated by it and felt sad for her daughter. She only wanted to shame Schaffen a little.
She hoped to make him feel the same pain that their child was feeling. How could they have done such a thing to Kelsey? She hoped that Sarah and Schaffen would see just how horrible their actions had been.
When You Go Viral
It was not at all her intention to create a viral post. She only wanted her family and friends to hear her side of the story. Perhaps she would have liked them to validate that he acted in an unreasonable manner. In all likelihood, she just wanted to vent a little.
In No Time
Can you just imagine how shocked Christin must have been when she saw that the post went viral? It turns out that a lot of people hated how extreme the punishment had been. All of this for highlights!
People Were Outraged
It is hard to believe that the post had been shared 24,000 times and got 33,000 reactions in just a week. These users were all very outspoken about how the incident made them feel. Check out this response.
A Little Too Much
Kelsey thought that the response to the post had been overwhelming. On top of this, there were a lot of questions at school. We can’t blame her for thinking that it was all too much. She was only 13, after all.
Outrage From Strangers
Christin received the support that she initially went out to look for. She just had no idea that she was going to get way too much of it! People also began to call the punishment “ridiculous” and “disgusting”.
Stand For Your Kids
One stranger added this comment: “What a cruel thing for a parent to do to their child. So sorry that happened…beautiful no matter what!” Despite all the support, Kelsey was simply not ready for her photos to go viral on the internet.
Middle School Woes
On top of that, how could she show her face in school now? It was bad enough that her hair had been ruined, but now everyone knew all about the Facebook post. No middle schooler should deal with this.
Like Nothing Had Happened
Her brothers were having a good time at school as usual. Sarah and Schaffen just went about their lives as well. How could they act like nothing happened? She was still hurting very much from what they did.
Theories And Speculations Abound
Of course, people would criticize Schaffen for what he did to his child. However, there were also some people who felt that there was more to the story. Was there really more to it than a controlling father?
Everyone Had An Opinion
One such reader chimed in to add this to the discussion: “I think the daughter was unfortunately in the middle of a get back at you between both parents fighting.” Do you think it was true that Christin did this to upset him? It is hard to answer this with certainty, but there were other theories as well…
Jennifer McVay has been working at Pear Tree Salon as a hairstylist for 27 years now. She said, “Your hair is what really makes you feel good. If your hair looks good, you feel good. She had beautiful long hair, that beautiful little girl is now walking around embarrassed.”
A Fine Line
McVay added, “Another person, aside from the father, is at fault. The one holding the scissors. But, back to the father, why would they want to humiliate their daughter that way? That was crossing a fine line”.
The Highlight Problem
People who also had kids of their own did not entirely agree with the highlights. According to them, they understand if Schaffen felt upset since they would have felt the same thing if their kid underwent a makeover without even telling them. Still, they agreed that what he did to Kelsey had been inexcusable.
Some said that they found 13 years old to be too young to start getting hair color. They said Halloween would get a pass, but they would still have to use wash-out hairspray and wigs. Other people said that it was not a problem at all since it was only a temporary thing. The haircut was what bothered them all.
Sympathy From Strangers
We are glad to hear that some people chose to reach out to the young girl herself. While there were many people who bashed Schaffen, some of the readers wanted to make sure Kelsey was fine. They were the ones to give her compliments and tips on what she could do with the current style she had. The heartwarming sentiments touched the young girl! They knew her better than her own dad did.
Making Up For It
With the story getting so much attention from others, Christin thought that she could ask them for help to make things easier for the entire family. There were a lot of individuals reading the story and then passing it on, so she put up a fundraiser on the GoFundMe website. Her goal was to raise enough money for them to pay for a new hair treatment. She hoped that this endeavor would help them turn things around for the better. At that point, Christin had no idea if this was going to work or not.
Showing Off Her Daughter
Christin was shocked by all the attention that the readers gave the story. She wanted to keep them posted on her child. Kelsey was still emotional after what went on. No one could blame her for it either.
She No Longer Hid
It was nice to see that Kelsey was no longer hiding her face in shame. Christin liked to show them how she was doing no matter how they felt about the cut. She wanted them to know Kelsey was a good kid.
Forgetting About The Trauma
People saw this young girl going fishing or playing softball. Of course, she had still the unwanted haircut. There was not much Kelsey could do about it but accept it, move on, and wait for it to grow back.
They started to understand this young girl even better. Many could not help but feel inspired by her because of how mature she had been about the situation. It was a good thing that she had a great support system in place. However, not one of them suspected that things would escalate some more.
Press And The Police
It seems like a person who kept up with the story thought that this should count as parental abuse. The police were now involved with the story. Fox8 also asked Police Chief Colby Carroll about his thoughts.
The station talked about how the girl got an unwanted haircut from the hands of her dad and stepmom. “I’ve been doing this since ’92 and I’ve never had a case I would say that’s like this,” he had to admit.
Soon enough, Schaffen found the police officers on their doorstep. He and Sarah were both suspended from their duties and responsibilities at the Middletown Township Fire Department. On paper, the two of them were on “administrative leave.” We cannot blame their workplace for making such a decision!
Consequences For Their Actions
An investigation went on, and the local judges agreed that Schaffen and Sarah had to be punished for what they did. Some thought that it was too much for the offense, but many thought it was just right.
Actions & Consequences
Have you forgotten what they told Christin when she went to their house? They knew all about actions and consequences, so perhaps they understood why they needed to be punished by the law as well.
The Court’s Decision
Christin received full custody of Kelsey as well! She decided to let everyone know about the good news by writing this post on Facebook: “After 5 hours of testimony and ‘evidence’ provided by both parties, the magistrate’s decision was for Kelsey to live with mom and her siblings!”
No More Joint Custody
“A huge weight has been lifted off of everyone’s shoulders and we cannot be any [happier]!!” Christin also added. Even though the mother and daughter were glad to hear this, there was a sacrifice that Kelsey had no choice but to pay.
Aunt Kelly Helps Kelsey Out
Kelsey failed to grab all of her things from her father’s house before they had to legally remove her from there. We doubt that she was excited to drop by and claim her things since this meant having to see Schaffen and Sarah. Even if this was the case, it hurt her to surrender a lot of the things that she considers important. Aunt Kelly knew how the young girl felt, so she went on GoFundMe to raise money for Kelsey. She only wanted this teen to have a normal life again.
It Would Be Different
Everyone in the family would probably agree that they reached the best possible outcome. However, it still hurt Christin and Kelsey a lot. How could it not when they had a great relationship with Schaffen before this happened? They had to cut him off without even a warning.
Encouraging Words From Strangers
We are sure they took comfort in the support displayed by their followers like Tatum Mathis. The good news was that things were around to get better for them soon. Keep reading to see what we mean.
Reaching Their Target Goals
In the end, they managed to hit the goal target that Aunt Kelly set. It looked like people were quick to support the cause, so it was not hard to reach one thousand bucks. In fact, they reached almost double that amount in no time! However, they could not believe one contribution that came in. An anonymous user gave them $2,000 in a single go, which then brought the total up to $3,543. Now, what did they plan to do with all the money that they got?
This is not hard to answer whatsoever. They all went to the salon to get Kelsey a new hairstyle once again. They ended up going to the Lady Jane salon. Apparently, the whole staff already knew the story!
Going Back To The Salon
It turns out that Haylee Ann already went there to talk to the entire staff about the plan. She wanted them to give Kelsey a nice surprise as soon as she arrived. We bet this must have been exciting for her!
At the salon, all of the staff members could not wait for the arrival of their young client. They were more than ready to make magic happen! They were all proud of how strong Kelsey had been when the going got tough. They all wanted to make her as happy as she used to be.
The Sky Is The Limit
They asked her what hairstyle she wanted, telling her that the sky was the limit at that point. Haylee Ann never left her side as well. She just wanted to give Kelsey the support and courage she needed. The young girl listened to what they had to say and agreed to a new change. What could it be this time?
Happy Once More
Kelsey knew that there was no way for her roots to come back in so soon, so she agreed to just stick to a wig in the meantime. She was also happy with the choices they gave her. The end result was lovely!
Christin was very grateful to the ladies for what they did. She could tell that her daughter was regaining the confidence that she lost. “I’d like to thank the ladies…for making my baby feel more like herself!” this happy mother said. “We truly appreciate you ladies so much!”
Her Very Own Fairy Godmother
She also knew that Haylee Ann helped make this a reality for her daughter. After all, she was the one who helped with the surprise welcoming committee for Kelsey. This godmother also took care of the fundraiser and provided both Christin and Kelsey the support that they needed when their relationship with Schaffen started to fall apart. They all posed for photos on the second salon day, which had been a huge success. What was next for all the people in the story? Only time will tell.
Happily Ever After
The people who followed this story were all thrilled to hear that there was a happy ending to it. They were surprised to see that even more people started to tune in as well. They had no idea that a traumatic ordeal like this could make people feel more sympathetic and generous!
Going Viral Again
After a couple of months, the post has earned over five thousand likes and many comments and shares. A commenter even told Kelsey, “You’re beautiful!” They were right about that, if you ask us. We are so glad that things started to look up for her. All of this happened thanks to the strong women in her life.
We know that she hated the haircut that her dad and stepmom forced on her, but would you believe us if we tell you that others have it worse? What boggles the mind is that they got it of their own free will.
Bose headphones are sweet, but they can be expensive. If you feel the same way, maybe you can do what he did. There is no need to pay $250 for a new device when you can pay your barber a few bucks.
Like Father, Like Son
He agreed to come with his dad, who wanted to take him to the barber. This poor kid had no clue that they were going to trick him like this! His dad and barber were actually in on the plan. They pulled this prank on him, much to his horror.
It’s Salvador Dali
If you wanted a unique haircut, this might just do the trick for you. Take a look at all the detail that went into the creation of this buzzcut. Trust us, this is something that only exceptional gifted people can do. It is so intricate that it blows our mind!
Don’t Pull The Plug
Can anyone tell us what he had been thinking when he went to the barber on that day? That is, if he was even thinking at all! The top part looks a bit like a whirlpool. Meanwhile, the front and back of his head come with all those strange braids. You know what? You do you.
This fella right here is a member of a shaved biker group but wants to look pretty when they go out on the weekends. He left a bit of hair in the shape of a bowtie. If this is what you want, then go for it!
Does this look familiar to you? We are sure it does. After all, anyone with a smartphone has probably seen it today already. The poop emoji is very important, but we would not have gotten a hair cut with it.
Ooh, do you think he did this on purpose or did he just get hit with static electricity? Even though this scenario seems likely, we are sure that he simply used a lot of gel and hairspray to make it a reality.
In the past, Miley had a phase where she tried out some wild hairstyles. This one might be the wildest of them all! The spiky look and the blonde tips spell rocker girl to us, but we are not fans of this look.
This is the only way to honor your favorite sport. How can you say you like tennis if your head does not look anything like a tennis ball? Just kidding, of course. If you ask us, this looks like a huge mistake.
We cannot deny that Oreos taste really good, but we think that this woman took her love for this treat a little too far. If she was getting the color scheme and logo on her head, she might as well get paid for it.
Ariel Winter Too
Mind you, it is not only regular folks who opt for crazy hairstyles. Celebs also do it all the time! Here is Ariel Winter of Modern Family fame when she got her hair dyed pink for a music festival.
Whoa, take a look at this masterpiece. Before we discuss it further, we just wanted to know how much gel and hairspray went into its creation. He managed to pull off the Noah’s Ark look, but at what cost?
This is the way to go if you want the whole world to know that you are a fan of the Smurfs. She was a huge fan herself, so she decided to do exactly this. Did she miss the top, or did she do it on purpose?
Carl likes to wear his hat every single day. It has become his trademark. However, he decided that it was time for a little change. This is why he just got a haircut in the form of a hat. It is creepily accurate!
During a presidential race, it is do or die. This guy was such a big fan of Hillary and decided that he will do everything he could to let everyone know. Candidates need all the support they can get, after all. She lost, but this haircut has already made him a winner.
Up Or Down?
She was attending a wedding and wanted to stand out from the crowd. She decided that a zipper was going to answer all of her problems! We’re not big fans of the look. Lady, just leave it at the craft store.
She was the girlfriend of a man who works as a pilot and decided to give him an awesome surprise on his birthday. Do you think he likes this jet-setting hairdo that she cooked up? It also spins!
Eyes At The Back Of His Head
From what we can see, this must have been a crazy bet that he just lost. Little ones will definitely get scared of this, but we are sure that some adults would be creeped out as well.
She tried her hardest to join the healthy-eating movement. We daresay that she even went overboard with this one. She did not attach real veggies to her head but turned her hair into a carrot instead.