He saw his daughter come home crying every single day after school. Tomas Valero could tell something was really wrong. When he finally found out what was happening, it took him by surprise. Before all this happened, he needed to resort to a sneaky solution. What did this worried dad do to find out the truth?
It’s not an easy feat for kids to start school. Oftentimes, it’s a big adjustment, so parents need to be there and support their child however they can. No matter how good the teacher is, or how nice the other classmates are, it’s a big change all the same.
A Tough Adjustment
As if adjusting to school for the first time isn’t hard enough, things will be much more difficult when there a rude teacher in the mix. When Tomas noticed his daughter having a tough time at school, he knew immediately that he had to figure out what was going on.
She Was Scared
There’s no doubt that parents, as a rule, want nothing less than the best for theire kids. It’s only natural for a parent to feel worried when they see their kids in pain. Tomas is one of those parents. Understandably, he became very concerned when his little daughter wasn’t acting like herself.
She Became More Emotional
He noticed that his daughter began acting more emotional once she started at a new school. In the beginning, he thought it was simply a case of nerves. However, once the problem persisted for longer than expected, he knew there was more to the story.
The Same Routine
When crying and asking to stay home became a regular occurence for his daughter, Tomas became extremely worried. Every morning started with the same routine, and Tomas couldn’t handle things that way anymore.
The Situation Worsened
After days became months, it became clear to Tomas that his daughter had no excitement or joy left in her. She was starting to become more scared as the days went by and frequently didn’t want to go to school at all.
Tomas tried getting to the bottom of it by talking to her, but his little girl was reluctant to tell him or his wife the truth. Despite this, he knew something had to be done. He didn’t like seeing his daughter this way at all.
Her New School
His daughter had just begun kindergarten at Pine Grove Elementary School. Before this, he never noticed anything off about her. All he knew was that she was a perfectly healthy girl who made friends quickly and had a creative side to her.
She Began To Change
Not long after his daughter began studying there, he noticed that she started becoming more emotional for some unseen reason. Tomas had a feeling it had something to do with the school. Was it her classmates? Her teacher? Maybe the place itself?
Did Well In School
Up until this point, his daughter was doing well in school. She got good grades and her reports from teachers were positive more often than not. However, a couple of months after she began attending her current school, her grades started slipping.
Feeling So Powerless
To top it all off, she would get emotional both before and after school. What was happening? It became too much for Tomas to bear. He couldn’t see his little girl act this way, but he felt so powerless. He knew it was time to get to the bottom of things.
The Concerned Father
We’re sure any parent would be worried about the well-being of their kids. It was so hard seeing his daughter get sad so often. He was beginning to get even more concerned about her. The more he tried to get to the bottom of it, the more his daughter shrank back from him. That’s when he realized what might be going on.
A Stable, Happy Life
He thought about things for a while when he became pretty sure his daughter was getting bullied by her classmates, or maybe even by one of her teachers. They had a stable and happy family at home, so he knew that couldn’t be it.
Patience Is A Virtue
Being patient is such an important part of life. It’s one of the most important virtues to learn in life, even if it’s difficult to practice. When it comes to teaching young children, this becomes even more valuable and important. If you’ve ever had to deal with kids, then you know how difficult they can be to handle. As a teacher, it’s part of your role to be patient with your students as they try to learn.
Her Formative Years
Tomas’ daughter was still so young. She was in her formative years which are absolutely crucial and important. Whatever happens during these years will mold her into the adult she will be in the future.
Preparation For The Future
Along with his wife, Tomas raised their two girls and son with this specific mindset; always be surrounded by positivity and encourage everyone to be their very best selves. Tomas and his wife know just how important it is to develop a strong sense of self in kids to prepare them for the future.
More Harm Than Good
Keeping that in mind, it makes sense that a mean or harsh teacher can do much more harm than good. Tomas and his wife definitely didn’t want that for their young daughter, and they began to think that was the root of their problem.
Creating A Plan
Being the resourceful person he is, Tomas decided he had to figure out what was going on with his daughter. He was having a difficult time since she was too young and shy to tell him upfront about what was happening.
Time To Take Action
As a father, Tomas couldn’t just let his poor daughter become more and more sad with each passing day. He had enough. He decided he would do something on the matter. But the question is, how? He thought long and hard before he finally came up with a plan.
How Would He Do It?
How would Tomas be able to listen to what was happening in a school without having to be there? He knew that if he asked to sit in on a class one day, the teacher would act differently for him. He needed a more creative solution than this to ensure he was getting to hear exactly what was going on.
Hidden Hearing Device
He decided to take a very literal route and actually ‘listen in’. He created a tiny hearing device and placed it carefully in his daughter’s hair. This would allow him to listen in to what was going on at school. Tomas was hoping this would give him the opportunity to understand what she was experiencing there.
He knew this was a pretty drastic measure. However, it was important to him to have proof of what was going on as well, not only find out what was happening. He didn’t tell his daughter what he was up to since he thought it would distract her throughout the schoolday.
Tomas couldn’t wait to see what would happen over the course of the school day. He waited for his little girl at the door and smiled as she ran up the driveway. He was so excited to finally get that smile he loves back on her face.
When he started listening to the recording after she came home, he was shocked at what he heard. He became furious after hearing what was going on, but all the same, he was glad to finally get an answer to what was happening.
The Source Of The Problems
In the recording, it sounded like her teacher was being mean to her students. Tomas continued to listen and quickly realized this must be the source of his daughter’s recent problems. There was no time to waste. Now it was time for him to do something about it.
He could tell that her teacher had been taking advantage of her position. It hurt him to hear the person they paid to care for their child behave so cruelly. He honestly couldn’t believe it as he was listening to the recording.
What To Do?
As he kept listening, he found out the teacher said offensive things, but on top of that, her tone was mean as well. The recording allowed Tomas to hear just how much she yelled at the kids over things that aren’t important. So what should he do about it?
Sick To His Stomach
It made him feel sick to hear a teacher behave this way. So, he decided it was time to raise awarness and take up the issue with the public school district. When things like this happen to your kid, it’s usually easier to take it up with a person who has the power to do something about it.
Filing A Complaint
Instead of talking to the teacher directly, he decided that he had a better chance for making things change if he went to the state school board instead. So, that’s exactly what he did. He set up a date and told his and his daughter’s story.
Their Poor Response
Despite the fact that Tomas had a very valid complaint with proof to back it up, the school district didn’t do anything to help him. He couldn’t help but feel disappointed by the response he had gotten. To him, it was sickening that the teacher had been mean to children on a daily basis.
No Action Taken
Can you even imagine just how upsetting it would be to hear they weren’t willing to do anything on the matter? They stated that the teacher had been disciplined for what she did, but Tomas wanted more to be done.
Making His Point
He wasn’t happy at all about the response that the authorities gave him. The teacher still taught the class his daughter was in. Tomas couldn’t help but feel that it was high time for retribution. Soon enough, he took it upon himself to do something about Duncan, the teacher.
A Parent’s Duty
The school did offer to move his daughter to another class, but that wasn’t enough. In any case, Tomas wasn’t only worried for his daughter now, he was also worried about the safety and wellbeing of the other kids in her class. As a parent, he knew he had to stand up for his kid, but also other helpless children as well.
For The Kids
He was upset that the school didn’t offer much in the way of supporting changes. It was a problem that would affect the lives of all the kids who were in that class. As long as Duncan was teaching, there were children who would be directly affected by her anger. Even though he and the other parents did protest, the school didn’t budge. However, he didn’t give up.
Signing A Petition
It didn’t take long for word to spread about what was happening in the school. Everyone heard about how Duncan treated the little kids in her class. He didn’t get much support after his first attempts to get justice, but things started turning around when he made a petition on Change.org. Soon enough, the general public had started to stand by his side and rally for his cause. He had over 2,000 signatures for the dismissal of Duncan not long after the petition was created.
The Media Spotlight
It was an even bigger surprise when Tomas found himself in the midst of a media spotlight. Local news channels heard about this story and jumped on it. They all admired him for his determination to get justice for what happened to his daughter.
The Entire Country
The story quickly spread all across the nation. People all over the country were hearing about this teacher and what she did, even if Tomas wasn’t able to have her fired. This gave him some hope that things would change somehow.
Preventing Childhood Traumas
The worst thing about the whole ordeal was that it was going to have a lasting effect on the child. Habits and fears that are picked up by kids at that age tend to stick with them for the long run, if not for their whole lives.
What Could Have Been
Had Tomas not noticed his daughter’s changing behavior and worked hard to find out the truth, she might have seriously suffered from trauma for the rest of her life. It was a serious matter that affected other kids as well.
Being A Mentor
Any parent knows it can be challenging to be a great mentor. A lot of times, a person will have to have a good look at themselves and critcize their own actions and behaviors. This is no easy feat, but it’s crucial in order to become a good role model for kids.
The Best Parent Possible
Tomas would soon learn that there were times when things were out of his control. No matter how much he tried to be the best parent possible, some things were simply out of his hands. All the same, he would go to any lenghts to ensure the safety of his daughter. He also hoped this would never happen to any other kids.
A Teacher’s Responsibility
The teacher is responsible to impart lessons that go further than the set curriculum. They should be helping improve the imaginations and minds of kids. These are things that will leave the biggest impact on the lives of kids as they grow older. A teacher is meant to inspire the kids.
Her Father’s Efforts
It isn’t a good idea for teachers to ever display abusive behaviors or assert dominance by spreading fear. All this will do is stifle the progress of a child and cause them anxiety. Did any of Tomas’ efforts to fix this problem work? We’ll find out.
Holding Onto Hope
Now, Duncan continues teaching at the school, so we hope that she realized at the very least just how harsh she’d been to the kids in her class. Tomas is still hoping against hope that the necessary changes will happen since he knows he’s in the right.
Lives At Stake
It truly felt as if the school had been putting the lives of the children at stake thanks to the short temper of just one teacher. He learned it would be almost impossible to change things if he didn’t take a stand. Tomas really hopes his action changed the school system even just a little bit to ensure the other kids wouldn’t be harmed in any way.
Making Them Stronger
The whole ordeal was tough on his and especially his daughter. However, Tomas eventually admitted that it had brought their family closer together. He never would have found out that something like this was going on if he didn’t go the extra mile.
A Better Dad
By this point, his daughter is now attending a class taught by a different teacher. If anything, Tomas learned how important it is to really pay attention to his daughter. Thanks to the whole ordeal, he knows he has become a better dad.
No matter what, Tomas will always be there for his two daughters and son. He and his wife agree that they will stand up for their kids whenever and wherever no matter what happens. Without great parents who recognize a problem when they see one, their daughter would have continued struggling and getting bullied by her teacher.
Since the day their little girl left the hospital, they had her best interest in mind. This is what makes them good parents. Tomas and Lacici always make sure their three kids have everything they need and more.
In order for kids to grow up well and become healthy members of society, having parents with a good head on their shoulders is always a good thing. A stable life at home helps prepare the kids for other things later in life. Aliya is very lucky to have such a great support system!
For a while now, Tomas and Laici have been preparing for the birth of the kids. Finally, after a long wait, she arrived. The two made sure they were physically and mentally prepared to do this before they had her.
The couple actually met while Tomas was serving in the army. Then instantly had a great bond and wanted to spend the rest of their lives together. Tomas was just about to be deployed, which is why they got married.
Everyone knows how hard it is to be a parent. However, it’s even harder to do while working in the military. We can’t begin to imagine just how difficult it must have been for Tomas to be away from his family.
Of course, Tomas wanted to be with his little girl. He felt as if his heart was always with her. While he was away, he felt at ease knowing she was being taken care of. Meanwhile, his wife missed him and, naturally, the extra hand.
Tomas was due to go home soon. This was something the whole family always looked forward to more than anything else. Aliya was very well-behaved who always made her parents as proud as they can be. She was growing up right in front of them.
No matter where she went, she was always patient and quiet. There were even times when Tomas and Laici forgot she was there! She was that quiet. She hardly ever cried and slept very well. They really got lucky with her.
How adorable does Aliya look here with her little bow? She got so distracted by her own thumb, she wasn’t paying attention to Tomas or his phone he was using. All the same, she looks absolutely sweet in the photo anyways.
This photo was taken when Aliyah was already a little older. She also had a baby sister by that point. They were all enjoying themselves eating cookies and playing dress-up. We’re sure it was a very fun day!
When her teeth had been growing in, Aliyah made this hilarious face. Tomas wanted her to re-enact the picture when she was a little older. He dressed her in a similar outfit and told her to smile the same way.
By the time the two girls were a little older, they decided it was time for a third child. The girls had a younger brother on the way! Luckily, Tomas and Laici loved being parents. Both of them felt so excited.
3 Bundles Of Joy
And now there were three! Just look at how similar all the siblings look! It’s so amazing they are all unique mixes of their parents. Aliyah has glasses like her mother. The purple frames look so sweet on her!
The girls love Snapchat and like using all the different filters that the app has. Their mother likes taking selfies with them as well. They post them for all their friends and family to see. They’re growing up so quickly!
All The Way Up
Back when Aliyah was younger, she loved to hop on her father’s shoulders. This would allow her to get a clear view of her surroundings. Tomas would hold onto her hands to make sure she wouldn’t fall over. She looked so excited!
This picture was taken during a family member’s wedding. Aliya, Laici, and Tomas all looked so nice. The matching outfits are so great. Aliyah definitely looks like she was enjoying walking with that adorable dress.
Reading Is Fun
Tomas always loved reading to his children. When Aliyah was still little, she adored it. With a pacifier in her mouth and her father’s soothing voice, we’re sure she fell asleep very quickly. We wonder what books she enjoyed.
To Tomas, his goal in life was to ensure that his kids were healthy and happy. He does his best to put a smile on their faces no matter what. While he had a difficult day at work, he makes sure to have a smile on his face for them.
Daddy’s Little Girls
There’s no doubt that the girls are daddy’s little girls. They clearly love him. Aliya seems to enjoy being a big sister and teaching the little one everything she needs to know. Whenever Tomas picks up his younger daughter. Aliyah joins in on the fun!
One of their favorite times of year is, of course, the holidays. The family adores spending the holidays together. Christmas is their favorite holiday. However, Aliya used to be scared of Santa, but she isn’t anymore.
It must feel like these two welcomed Aliyah into the world so long ago seeing as time flies. But, it had been over a decade ago since they became first-time parents, can you believe it? It’s crazy to think about it.